Heal and Grow.
Iím a board certified psychiatrist with over 20 years in practice.
These articles on relationships with borderlines are insightful,
but more importantly, searingly clinically accurate. Congratulations
on such terrific work. I plan to use these in my work with patients!
Schreiber, I just wanted to say thank you - I have been struggling
for the last 2 years in a relationship with a female I suspected
to have BPD. I have agonized of trying to make sense over what has
happened and despite countless hours researching, it was not until
I stumbled across your website that I feel I had a real epiphany
and some humbling introspection. I really identified with the content
in the articles and the description of a people pleaser reflected
a large portion of my life that I was previous unaware of. I still
have much healing to do but I think now I will finally start to
move in a direction to do so. Thank you for posting the resources
you have - I feel they will have a very positive influence in my
life going forward.
Shari, I wanted to express by gratitude for the resources you have
posted online. I have been struggling with the recent demise of
a relationship with a classic, textbook borderline. It shook me
to the core, and I didn't know where to turn for answers. Your articles
have had a profound impact on my healing. They spoke to me on so
many levels, I feel like they were written for me. Thank you so
much for making these articles available.
want to thank you Shari, for saving my life. Everything makes sense
now, and I'm well on my way to true empowerment and self-respect,
thanks to you. This work I've done with you is life-changing on
so many levels, and I'm no longer fearing and running from my feelings.
Overcoming my addictions was something I could never before have
imagined. You're a miracle worker.
I wanted to say was THANK YOU. I have been reading the same generic
material for months now. I knew in my gut that my EX had BPD but
there were certain things that I would read over and over that made
me believe that I may have been wrong--until I came across your
articles that almost blew me off the couch with how accurate and
precise you were. I'm going to assume (by something you stated at
the end of an article) that there are some people that may feel
you're too blunt in your articles. I believe it's what separates
you from ANYONE online explaining BPD. The scenarios and examples
you give are simply AMAZING. You explain this to a novice on such
a simple, yet genius level that I felt as if you were speaking directly
to me. I have read almost everything you have on your website. You
have explained so much that I'd basically always known but couldn't
completely understand, and hadn't the knowledge to fully express.
I will end this ramble by letting you know that for me and I'm sure
so many others, you have accomplished your goal of what you created
this site for; educating people and helping them to heal... thank
found your site. I am a therapist on an inpatient unit. Your information
is fantastic! I can't wait to read more. Thank you for all of your
Shari, I've said it more than once but I just wanted to let you
know that after months of recovering from my borderline and learning
about myself through books and articles (many of them yours) I still
from time to time break down and have a good cry. They are sparsely
populated anymore these days, but today was a down day. Your site
is one of the greatest empowering tools I have. I have just read
and it was amazing. Thank you, I am pretty sure I love you.
Shari, I landed on your web just 3 days ago, and thank you for your
help. I am still struggling to get over the pain of a relationship
with a male borderline
and to heal myself of so much feeling of guilt and remorse for being
the "unique" cause of this disaster. The relationship
lasted one year, the rupture was in November 2009, and I'm still
going over and over it (while he continues screwing up new relationships,
I've been told) this is crazy! All you write on codependence and
needing to be needed
concern me a lot. Now, after much suffering, I know I hooked up
with this man because both of us have the same emotional pain from
childhood--the difference is, how we show it. In both cases, our
mothers are emotionally unbalanced women. I felt panic to express
my own feelings and dislikes to him, and upset him--exactly
like I learned to do with my mother! Now that I see the root, I
need to do something practical with it. Your web site is a great
help for this, and I want to thank you very much for it!
have great understanding and insight on the issues you write about.
I have discovered your website today and I have not stopped reading
for 7 hours! Been in a devastating relationship (with I am sure
now, is BPD) for 2 years, I just could not stop feeding my hunger
for explanations and proof--which even my therapist failed
to convince me 100%, that I'm not crazy. But you did more then that.
I would like to point out that your writing about Fast-Forwarding
and Scanning impulses in Anxiety
brought me a long awaited 'Ahah' moment, and finally
(after reading dozens and dozens of books) I think I'm starting
to understand myself. Article about addiction
is just great--I will reread it numerous times more, because it's
so motivating and eye opening. You write in such understandable
ways about very complicated, deep issues. Thank you!
taking a stand
and helping people who have been mixed up with borderlines. A truck
hit me. I am 1 year living apart and not engaging with my soon to
be ex-wife. I thought I would die. I am still picking
up the pieces. Your articles have helped me sooooooooooooooooooooooooo
much. You showed me exactly what was going on and you pointed towards
me as well - to heal the part of myself that was tolerating
such non-love. You have helped me out of the thickness of chaotic,
toxic confusion that was killing me, and probably shortened my life
a bit. I am broken, but I am healing. And I thank you.
*Dear Dr. Schreiber,
I wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for writing your
articles on BPD. I was enmeshed with a borderline female for the
last 8 months, and I think she's left me for good this time. Several
months into the relationship I was cut off from contact which left
me in unbearable pain. I told my dad who is a psychiatrist about
this, and he said that she sounded like a borderline. Through searching
information on BPD, I found your articles, which were the only ones
that told me anything helpful to my situation. Like you have said,
despite borderlines' lack of empathy, I cared for her so much, but
this taught me that I am a caregiver,
which I didn't really know before. I think I owe any sanity I have
left to your articles, especially the one with 'pony'
in the title as it described all the behaviors that happened to
me exactly! Thanks again.
an experienced psychologist, I thought I knew how to have a healthy
relationship, and what to avoid in a partner. Your Borderline
Male article has abruptly awakened me to why I've felt so awful
in my recent relationship, and why I'm in such pain right now. I
grew up needing to be needed of course, and your article on
that has opened my eyes. I'll be calling you!
just a guy who's writing to thank you for the work you're doing,
and have done with me. I'm a changed fellow because of you. It's
like I came to you a little boy--and left a man. I have no idea
how you do what you do, or where you learned to do it--but it's
worked for me, like no other help I've ever tried. When I think
of the tens of thousands of dollars I've spent on "therapy"
over the past few decades, I want to vomit. The past few months
with you have been truly life altering--and I thank
you, with all my heart.
You haven't just helped me move past my destructive (almost killed
me) relationship with a Borderline, you've helped me find happiness
that I never even knew existed. It's a whole new world for me now,
thanks to you. I honestly can't thank you enough. God bless.
found you by accident. Thank the universe I did. I've been in a
relationship with a BPD
male for 7 mos. I couldn't understand, was confused, and thought
myself crazy. Until I read your article, I had no idea. Thank you
for feeding it so straight. I can let go now & the sooner the
better, apparently. A million Thanks--you saved my sanity.
Shari, thank you for saving my life. This work with you
was hard at times, but the payoffs have been life-altering! I used
to see myself as ugly, unlovable and unworthy of affection and love.
I kept choosing narcissistic and borderline disordered guys to fill
an empty dark hole inside me, and couldn't tolerate being without
someone--or alone with me. All that (and so much
more) has changed since meeting you. I'd done plenty of 'therapy'
in the past--decades of it in fact, and
would never have believed I could relate to/view myself so differently--and
that's not just about all the body weight I've lost during
this process, it's about emotional weight that's held me
back. Thank God I found you when I did. I'm stronger inside now,
and my core issues
aren't running (and ruining) my life anymore. You are indeed a treasure,
and gifted healer. Thank you for helping me find my Self.
Joy and contentment are now my best, and most frequent companions.
I just wanted to let you know that I am a borderline, and I found
your articles to be exactly right. I even sent them to my parents
and psychiatrist to let them have more insight on what I'm dealing
with. Thank you for your wonderful explanations!
Ms. Schreiber: I recently read several of your (borderline) articles
on http://gettinbetter.com. I wanted to personally thank you for
making them publicly available on your website. I am in the process
of getting over a breakup with a woman who probably suffers from
BPD. Your articles have been more helpful to me in coming to terms
with this lousy/hollow/empty dating experience and (hopefully) moving
on, than anything else I've found in peer reviewed journals or the
advice that my friends and family have given me about it. I'm extremely
grateful to have found your writings on the web when I did. Once
again, thank you!
so terribly wounded after suffering a complete abandonment by a
BPD man after one year of chaos and abuse. While rationally I am
relieved that I don't have to spend the rest of my life in a state
of helplessness, I have never faced such an ocean of pain and confusion
in my life. It hurts beyond imagination. I happen to be a psychologist
myself, and two days ago I had a light bulb go off when I realized
I'd been captured by a borderline--the past year flashed before
my eyes. I want to deeply thank you for writing for us survivors.
So much of the stuff I have been reading simply focuses on the borderline,
which only adds to the invalidation. But you give voice to our pain
and to the destruction in the aftermath. You provide validation
for the gut feeling that has been shouting for so long, telling
us that maybe were not crazy after all. You give us some closure,
where closure would otherwise not be available at all. The relief
in reading your articles is minor, but it is SO important--the very
first step in a long journey of healing that lies ahead.
Shari: I want to personally thank you for the articles you have
written regarding BPD. I recently had a break up with a BPD and
couldn't figure out (WTF) was going on. YOU have written the most
informative, insightful and helpful articles I have found on the
internet. Thanks to you, I now "get it" and can move on
to healthier choices. Thank you sooo much!
wanted to say that never have I read such candid, common sense info.
In one read, I am able to finally let go of my confusing,
borderline boyfriend. I knew he was not right, but just needed
someone else to affirm what I already thought!
I just broke up again with my BDP/Bulimic/OCD girl friend. This
site has helped me make sense of the madness,
and saved me. I thought I found my soul mate, but found a broken,
abused, manipulative woman. You know I could go on and on, but thank
God I got out. "Clearing
the Fallout from a Borderline Break-up" helped me get my
mind straight. Who knew love would be like this? (LOL) Thank you
so much for your website--you saved a father of four from disaster.
words cannot adequately express how thankful I am for the articles
on BPD you wrote. Wow! They were extremely eye-opening, enlightening,
and refreshing. You have no idea how much I needed something to
grasp onto in order to help me understand all that I've been through
with my ex-boyfriend the past 3 years. I left feeling like
I have nothing to offer anyone, feeling like I must be the only
person who sees how disingenuous he could be because he has so many
woman "friends", like maybe he is the best I will
ever have and I was foolish to throw it all away. I am slowly
healing now, with the support of friends, therapy, and articles
like yours. I will continue to look in your forums and read all
the other articles you have posted about BPD. I am learning to make
sense of all that's happened and the ensuing chaos in my life the
past three years. My stomach was in constant turmoil. I still have
nightmares, flashbacks, and a "swollen" stomach where
all my stress goes. I wound up leaving my boyfriend (took me two
times) and there is no way I would ever go back. I gave it all I
had, and I left feeling emotionally depleted and beaten down. I
am on the road to healing, and your articles are certainly helping
me to get there. Thanks again for sharing your story, your courage
and your incredible insights.
Schreiber, I have had 3 borderlines in a row--even met one online,
and went across the country to live and to be married, this past
year. That did not work, all of a sudden he ran back home to the
wife he was suppose to have been divorced from. He fits the borderline
description to a "T". A male friend told me of your site,
and the definition of 'borderline'. Wow, I think this will change
my life forever; I just have to find my way home from this nightmare.
I am in the middle of reading your article, THE
MALE BORDERLINE; Surviving the Crash after your Crush. It is
the best and most accurate portrayal of a male borderline I've ever
read. I just got out of a 1 1/2 year relationship with a 'Superman'
Borderline. While reading the article I must have said, Oh
my God, 20 times--and I'm not even completely finished.
Great work. Thanks so much. Reading this article is really helping
Shari, I just want to thank you for the information and advice you
give on your website about coping with BPD partners - and not least,
with the feelings when the relationship is over. I have read thousands
of pages on BPD since we found out that my ex-girlfriend had it,
but none that make as much sense as yours. Thank you very much for
helping me understand better.
Dr. Schreiber, I was sitting in my room tonight thinking as I often
do, and trying to figure out why I always feel this sort of emptiness
and unhappiness--when I decided to browse the Internet and came
across your article "Do
You Love to be Needed, or Need to be Loved?" I just wanted
to tell you that your article explained and described feelings that
I've been trying to put into words for years, and that just reading
it alone has comforted me greatly, and given me some insight into
what I can do towards resolving my issues. I would like to give
you my deepest thanks for writing and posting this article and tell
you that you rock.
I truly believe you have saved my sanity. I cannot express in words
how grateful I am for your website. In three days time, you have
explained to me the dynamics of what I've been hopelessly discussing
with a denying, projecting, narcissistic Ph.D therapist in a DBT
practice. I was told by this clinician, that "if
I couldn't work with my BPD partner and successfully integrate
the DBT theories, that I had no chance of success in life with anyone."
I now know I've been manipulated by both this therapist--and
the lying BPD partner. After reading your articles, I understand
that Borderlines can fool professionals and I shouldn't take it
personally. I feel a huge sense of relief and validation.
Finally, someone understands. I must give myself
permission to work on healing my core issues, rather than trying
to adapt to the Borderline's craziness under the guise of Dialectical
Behavior Therapy. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
Ms. Schreiber, thank you so very much for your helpful and healing
website. I've found your articles on BPD to be very useful. Your
no-nonsense plain-language manner is very comfortable and your insight
is priceless. Your article "AT
ANY COST" was literally a lifesaver for me. While I still
have a long way to go in recovering from my 4-year hostage situation
(Oops! I meant relationship) I believe that I will make it. In the
immediate aftermath of the breakup, your article was my "voice
of reason and sanity" and was my first sign of hope that I
was NOT insane, and that I was not alone. Thank you so very much
for making so much good information available at no cost to the
reader. Your articles, and therefore you, are priceless!
Shari. I came across your site while searching "Conversations
with a Borderline." I am recently separated, and moving to
divorce from my Borderline wife of 21 years. I thought
I knew everything, because I could recite "Stop Walking on
Eggshells" backwards and forwards. Then I came across your
articles, especially the ones relating to the end of the borderline
relationship. They were so helpful, so on the mark, that they literally
blew me away. Thanks for sharing these articles.
Shari. I just wanted to thank you for taking the time to put all
this material online. It's really a great collection of work and
has personally helped me a great deal. I'm a NPD (prob) and my ex-girlfriend
has been diagnosed as a BPD. We tried everything and now I want
resolution because I am meeting new people, but feeling a bit mind-screwed.
Your article "Haven't
we met before?" has helped me a lot and I've contacted
my ex and shared the article. Although I do not expect her to accept
anything all the way, she has begun acknowledging our dynamic and
the stuff she used to do to me. Life goes on, today I started a
list of all the things I hate about her to help me get over this
last hump. Thanks again.
you, thank you, and thank you! I have searched all over for answers,
and your information on male
borderline personality is invaluable. You may have very well
saved my life. The information that you shared was extremely insightful,
and now I must find the strength and courage to move on. Thanks
your article on recovering from a borderline relationship was amazing.
Though I'm a physician and KNEW she was bpd, I still got sucked
in. Caring physician + low self-esteem = BPD magnet!! Thanks so
much for helping me recover! Sincerely, Getting my life back in
Ms. Schreiber; Your website is the best I've seen about Borderline
relationships. It is more insightful than Gunderson's book or any
of the other books I've read the last couple years. You are absolutely
correct--and the only person who was able to explain the constant
lies. I thought I was going nuts! My girlfriend broke up with me
5 years ago, but still calls every six months to get me involved
in love triangles with her new boyfriends. I just figured out that's
what she's been doing. Thanks to you, I have told her never to contact
me--and per your instructions, I will not answer her calls. I would
only lose if I did. Also, thank you for making me aware of the issues
from my childhood
codependence that made her seduction possible. I wish I had
seen your site before my divorce. Don't let anyone tell
you that you're wrong. You are uncanny!
Shari, we connected a while ago as I was involved with a borderline
woman and I believe you added me to the list of letters you've received.
Well, I've finally distanced her from my life, and though it's been
hard because of the young son involved, I also know it's for the
best. You've mentioned how so many seem to gravitate towards the
and you're dead on, in that regard. Mine was a self-professed
spiritual teacher. Lord knows what that means, but in any regard
she was great at the talk, but seldom the walk. During one of our
last contacts, she stated she had been willing to give up sex in
order to remain together, and I'm still trying to make sense of
that one! Talk about control issues--how noble of her (lol). I've
dedicated the past 4 years to this woman's ups and downs and finally
seem to have found the will to end it, and realize the good things
that can come from that. I've exhausted my energy and patience,
but my son will be better off for it. These people are truly 'out
there' and the hurt and damage they can do, ought not be underestimated.
You're doing great work, and thanks once again.
Shari, I want to thank you very much writing the articles
on BPD. I bookmarked them and reread them often, whenever I
start questioning the break up. These articles could have been written
just for her. Instead of being jealous of the guy she's with now,
I feel pity for him as I know from my own experience, he
will eventually have his heart and soul ripped out of him. With
everyday I'm feeling more healed, and for that I thank you so much.
I cannot thank you enough for your article on antidepressants.
I'd been struggling to get through my days on an SSRI, and feeling
listless, drowsy and unmotivated--yet wide awake at night! I asked
my doctor if I could switch the time I took it (thanks to your article),
and she agreed. I'm feeling so much better now, and I owe it all
to you. Thank you for all this insightful material--you and your
site are such a blessing!
over the years you've seen me for chiropractic care, I always enjoyed
your company and our conversations. One day you'd made a casual
remark about something I said, and it really bothered me and stuck.
I thought about what you'd said for days afterward, and
I knew from a deep part of my being that I couldn't shrug this one
off, so I made an appointment to come see you. I'd never been to
counseling, coaching or therapy before--and as the appointment neared,
I almost convinced myself that this was for 'messed up' people,
and I wasn't one of them. I almost canceled that appointment! By
our second session, I realized I could benefit from your assistance,
and made a commitment to the work. You are a natural healer. This
is obviously your purpose in life, and you have the gift to cut
right to the core of issues, with keen insight and respect.
The comment you'd made that got all this started, was that I seemed
stuck in survival mode--which precluded me from
being able to thrive. By the time we hit our 10th
session, I had dissolved my failing business partnership and opened
my own office (after 11 years in practice), in a grand manner that
far exceeded my expectations. I couldn't have done this, without
your bringing to light the hidden thought patterns that have held
me back since adolescence--and prevented me from living my life
in full. You are a bringer of light, and I recommend you to others
with all my heart. Thank you, Shari! John E. Min, D.C. Los Angeles,
read the article, "At
Any Cost" on your website. I wanted to say thank you. I
was really feeling alone and pathetic after I ended my relationship
after many years with a borderline woman. Your article was illuminating
beyond words and made me realize that I am not alone. With sincere
gratitude, thank you so much.
I can't thank you enough, for helping me figure out that this terrible
itching problem I've had for years, is related to a soy
allergy! I've given away or discarded every product in
my kitchen that contains anything made with soy, and the tormenting
hives have finally disappeared. I'm now checking labels on everything
I buy (which is a pain in the ass), and I miss my fish marinades
and lunchtime sushi, but it's a small price to pay for being free
of this discomfort. In my wildest dreams, I could never have imagined
that you could help me with this issue, as well.
Many thanks, and God bless.
Ms Schreiber, I'd like to confess to you, that in the most difficult
time of my life, your article "Do
you love to be needed, or need to be loved?" that I happened
to read today, helped me recognize patterns of my behavior. To be
exact, it was a perfect description of my personality,
and deeply affected me--constituting (I hope) one solid step for
me to make a new start in life, for which I'll try to be optimistic.
I owe you a big thanks. God bless you.
Shari, thank you so much for creating this website for people. I
am almost 19 years old, and have been diagnosed with ADD for about
9 years. Tonight, I was feeling upset and depressed over a recent
argument with my mother, so I decided to search ADD to see if maybe
there was something wrong with me. I saw your page and clicked on
it. I read your article from top to bottom. You were so accurate
in your descriptions, it felt like you were describing me! You helped
me figure out things in my life that I never knew were related to
ADD--I'd figured I was just like that. I have been having
a hard time lately coping with everything going on in my life, and
your article has given me hope. I almost started crying while I
was reading it. I'm tearing up now! I cannot express how grateful
I am. For once in my life, I feel like everything's going to be
okay. I have never felt that before. I have always felt like I was
crippled because I have ADD,
and now I feel like I don't have to be. You are a blessing. Thanks
ever so much, and God Bless.
Shari, I just wanted to take a moment to thank you. I just recently
got out of a really bad relationship, and after hours of research,
online articles, chats and inquires--I can say my ex most certainly
displays almost every trait of BPD.
She also has an eating disorder. Your page helped me so much. Thank
have become an aficionado of BPD sites, having just ended 3 years
of hell with an extremely high functioning BPD
woman who persuaded me to marry her in the middle of it all.
Which I did, thinking it would help (I was recently widowed after
a very happy 36 year marriage and still in grief, when I met her).
Yours is by far, the best of these sites that I have come
across, and I just wanted to send you a word of appreciation--it's
the most pointed and deep. Thanks so much, and best wishes.
genuinely believe that you saved my life today. I read your website
and was shocked and stunned by the similarities. My ex-girlfriend
was diagnosed as borderline about a year ago, but it seemed such
a minor thing that I never bothered to research it. Oh what
a fool I was! About three months ago she suddenly
dumped me, causing me massive personal pain, emotional torment
and no understanding of what had just happened. She completely blamed
me for the break-up saying that she didn't love me anymore and it
wasn't anything I had done, simply that she couldn't see me as someone
she loved. Two days before that, she had professed undying love
(we'd been engaged about 4 months before that). It's left me reeling--and
having recently lost my job, I'm also broke. She'd taken away my
entire support network by giving me such an intensity of love (infatuation?)
that I felt I no longer needed them emotionally. Suddenly she left
me with no one, and I was feeling destroyed--I couldn't even move
out. A few weeks ago the violence started; she attacked me with
a 15 inch kitchen knife one night, after a trivial argument. A few
days later she bit me, drawing blood. I had so little self-esteem
that I thought I *deserved* it, feeling I'd caused her aggression
in the first place. Reading your article completely opened my eyes.
I registered with a supportive BPD forum, where they really helped
me understand the dangers. I'd been feeling at great personal risk
anyway, but I didn't know what to do. Having now sought legal advice,
I am filing an injunction against her, and when she receives it
she will almost certainly kick me out of the flat--it's in her name
of course. She insisted I move in with her very early on in the
relationship--all the more control, under the guise that I'd get
away from a terribly expensive flat of my own, and we'd pool our
resources. The local authorities will re-house me at their expense,
because I'm "fleeing domestic violence." I've got a long
road ahead, but can see myself in a few months, wishing she was
still around. One of the most beautiful girls I have ever met in
my life, so young, so loving, so adoring. It was all a lie, and
it's going to take me time to recover, but with resources like yours,
I'm sure I'll eventually make it. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
a whole day and night struggling to get something important done
for work, I Google for something like 'add
disorder crazy' and well, I read your article and just can't
resist saying thank you! I'm 27, and found out about ADD a few months
back, as a final answer to years of not knowing what was wrong--just
thinking that I was missing something in my brain. Now, to actually
take some steps to try and make my life better, knowing what I know...
wish me luck. Thanks a lot, Shari.
just wanted to thank you for your website. The answers to why my
Partner is . . . and some of the answers why I am. I don't know
where to go from here, but I know so much more today, than at any
one time in my life. How to change me? I'm not sure--but gonna work
on it. How to hope my partner can change before our Love is lost,
can't answer. I can say I'm not giving up yet. Your writings
added fuel to my fire, and the desire for change. Thanks
experience." I have finally 'got it.'
After reading your wonderful writings, I feel empowered and able
to move on from my relationship issues. Everything is in there,
that I 'needed'
to know, and now I can easily and happily progress. Thank you.
*Thank you for the information about borderline "Waifs."
Unfortunately, there isn't a lot of information about this aspect
of Borderline Personality. I think that the "Waif" really
is a syndrome deserving of its own descriptive category. It seems
people with this condition are not diagnosed by physicians, or even
psychiatrists! Waifs are so pitiful. You just can't help feeling
sorry for them.
you! I am an MFT (Marriage and Family Therapist), and most of my
clientele are BPD/NPD
males. I have found your articles to be helpful to their spouses/partners
and simply have told them to change the gender in these pieces.
Since most of my clients are high-functioning Borderlines, their
issues come to the table first, in the form of sex addiction or
commitment phobia/avoidant behaviors.
*I discovered you by searching on Google for more up to date Alice
Miller material. I lost track of the actual
Google search, but my first exposure to you was, "Do you love
to be needed, or need to be loved?" That
article and others, are well written and effective. I say this
after reviewing Alice Miller's books this past week. I believe you
incorporate her insight into your perspective and make it more clear
for a current American audience. That's what first hit me. I hope
you are inspired to write a book, or have already started. I was
moved enough to write you.
Shari, keep up the good work. Finding your website and working my
way around some of your stories and research has really helped me
out. I'm quite sure it has helped me through some major
heartache--and the thought of continuing to pursue a Borderline,
now has me sick to my stomach. I am moving on, and will definitely
use your information when I get into my next relationship. I really
was able to (mentally) replay my time spent with her, and how I
ignored or "slept through" all the signs. Thanks again.
You're my hero!
have been thinking about writing this letter for many months now.
I was involved with a female who abruptly left the relationship--someone
I was involved with for many years. The trauma of this left me seriously
ill. Up to this point in my life, I'd always enjoyed forty-eight
years of very good health, save for liver disease--the cause of
which was never determined. I had a spontaneous remission (liver
enzymes all went back to normal). I only noticed that I was tired
from it, and this went away--still, it never really slowed me down.
This illness however, left me dead in my tracks,
to where I couldn't practice. During this sick time, I came across
your article, AT
ANY COST. I should've realized this person I was involved with,
was very clearly exhibiting these (BPD) traits. I believe that at
the time I read your article, not only did it lead to my recovery--but
that it actually saved my life. In the midst of
this illness--and being a healthcare professional myself, it didn't
seem logical to me, that merely reading something posted on the
Internet could have this effect. At that point, I wasn't sure this
was a reasonable conclusion. In some way, my logical professional
mind still wants to doubt this fact--however, I cannot. In retrospect,
I recognize that your article did indeed, save my life. I now accept
this as fact--and that's why I'm writing to thank you for your efforts.
After saving a few lives myself, Thank You
for saving mine.